Monday, May 31, 2010

To My Indomitable Mother

Who is gone, finally. I wish you well. You were my inspiration. Because of you I wanted to be a professional woman, first a doctor, then a writer. Because of you, I knew that women could do whatever they wanted and were equal or often vastly superior to their male colleagues. You were a force to be reckoned with, often unintentionally. You had a sharp temper, and a way of speaking your mind that could have used a little editing. Still, you were incredible. I am who I am because of you. I love you very much. And always will.

I will leave the memories for the memorial service; that's the best place for the long funny and touching stories. But I'll think of you whenever I go out and admire my overly abundant lily, tulip and daffodil displays, that is if I can ward off the deer this year. You loved to garden. It's where I get my love of gardening from. A little thing, but one that remains constant. The truth is, I'll think of you often.

This book Surviving Amelia was written with you always in mind. It's about strong women, about sisters, and best friends. I wanted most of all to write about what it means to grow up and grow into yourself, to learn how to be an independent woman. You were my inspiration for that. You showed me how to live and how to be assured about my own abilities. I'm glad you got to see how that worked out, and that you lived a long, full life.

I'll miss you.


  1. Beautiful tribute to your mom...I am speechless. Thank you for sharing this poignant and powerful journey with us roseduncan, the creation of a book about Amelia and the process of caring for your mom who has now passed on...Blessings to you and yours.

  2. Naomi,
    Anna lived long, and well, and made a difference. What an example to those of us who have had it so much easier.

    Love to you all.

  3. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your mother. I wouldn't be surprised if one of her last thoughts was that she was proud of you.

  4. I'm so glad I got to meet her. She made us tea and we talked about how she and your dad had known my parents...way back when they were all young a beautiful with so much promise. She was very kind to my daughter Molly who came along.

  5. Thanks to everyone. It's been a trying time but I am so glad to be able to write about it, writing is my lifeline literally with this. And your comments have meant so much . . .

  6. What a beautiful tribute to your mom. I wish I could have met her. But maybe I have through your book!